It was about time, I had been promising to do a singles event for ages seeing that the supper club seems to be the perfect place to meet new friends. Perhaps it was time to meet new friends and new lovers?
I had been so put off by speed dating and heard many horror stories of singles events that I was very worried. Sometimes, I had to stop myself from stressing over it in a dream, panicking about what to do. Should it be a standing formality, half standing, half sitting, all sitting…
I decided that the best way to do it was have it laid out like it normally is, because this has always worked well and so why shouldn’t work again, just because everyone is single, it doesn’t mean ‘single’ people are differently mannered. Standing up and eating means you hardly eat and you’d get tired more easily. Sitting down means you can take your time and enjoy food and yourself much more.
Following my post a few months ago here and here about online dating. I got 15 women and 15 men to come. All professionals with very interesting careers. I had become a mini dating agency. I had learned everyone’s names and faces by asking them all to send in pictures so that I can introduce one person to another – as if I knew them all and this was just a dinner party!
I also asked everyone to bring cheese, I thought this interactive way of telling who a person is by what they eat may be good icebreakers.
The night turned out to be brilliant. The atmosphere was great. I asked the men to move around every course, but not all of them, I picked up on who needed to move and stay depending on how heavy their conversations were and made sure everyone got to meet one another. Eventually, people felt so at home, they just moved around themselves.
What was really nice was that it felt that everyone was open and willing to make friends, that it wasn’t just about finding someone. There wasn’t a sleezy element to it (I hope) where there was a slimey man trying to touch someone up and she was hitting him around the head with her handbag.
After dinner was served, I talked to many people and laughed with them about things and life in general and may have made some fantastic new friends. The women were great, the men were great – why-are-we-all-single! Hooray! Cheers!!
Then we danced and we drank too much and that is the perfect way to spend a Valentine when you are single, in London, in style, with a full belly and in happiness to be independent and among friends, old and new.
The next Singles Event is on 24th Feb. We need more handsome wonderful men. If you are a woman, you can go on the waiting list. Get in contact, firstname.lastname@example.org