Who pays on the first date? The man, I would say and most of my friends would agree. Especially if he suggests the place and orders the wine. In my twenties, I was all about being an independent woman, who would pay for her own way, even dinner dates and drinks because I wanted to be in control. Nope, I was wrong and I was with boys who just took advantage of my generosity. (I even stupidy paid for boys to go on holiday with me – and its not to say its because I was wealthy, because I am not!).
A lot of women think that if they let the man pay the bill then they owe something to him, perhaps a night or more dates. Now in my thirties, I think I may have wised up a little, I offer to pay half of the bill if there is no consensus that he should pay it all.
But to be honest, if he pays it, he wins in my book, I would happily pay on the second date if he’s any good. He looses many points if he doesn’t. Its just the way it is. “Did he pay?” Would be one of the first questions a friend would ask afterwards. If yes, then,”O good, is he good looking? Is he nice?” If no, she would (all) say, “dump him.”
I don’t want to be spending my future with someone, be it long term or short term and dividing up money. The worse is when the bill comes, he says, you had more wine than me, plus a dessert so I only owe this much. Gah! This actually happens a lot! This is where I say – forget it – !
Chivalry should not be forgotten. Opening doors and general politeness goes a long way. And girls always love to receive flowers! Very Good. Thank you! More Please!